FOUNDHER PODCAST EPISODE SIX - LIfe's curveballs Part two

Heather starts the episode out sharing how her and D meeting was true divine intervention. 

D makes Heather answer last week's No Question Off Limits: 

What would you tell yourself eight years ago or when you were 18? 

Heather says she would tell herself that life might not end up the way you think, but that's ok. 

Heather opens the topic of life's curveballs sharing how when she was married, her husband brought up a conversation about how he didn't want to be married anymore. 

She describes herself as a stubborn and determined woman, and she was not going to let it happen. She didn't believe in divorce and was not going to go through it. 

She did everything to try to save her marriage, but she mentions how we don’t have control and it’s impossible to have control over everything even though she tried her best to. 

She discusses how she went through a long separation, and there was a period of four years when her husband wasn’t working during the separation, which was just added stress. During this time, she was still working nights at the hospital on top of OPD. 

D brings up how Heather always kept her kids in a routine, and Heather acknowledges that she's still doing a good job at it. They wanted them to be as normal as possible despite what was going on in their marriage. 

Heather brings up that she didn't want to use what was going on in her life as an excuse. 

She's learned that she is a bit of a "control freak," and when D asks Heather what she's learned from that, Heather says that she's learned to loosen her grip and let things fall where they're supposed to. She says we are stronger and more capable than we think we are. 

D asks Heather what were some of the hardest things she had to deal with and what did she do to keep going. 

Heather said it really was putting one foot in front of the other. When dealing with divorce, you go through the grieving process– mainly grieving the future you thought you had. 

She mentions how moms typically put themselves on the back burner when kids are involved, and now Heather is viewing life differently and she wants them to see that she can still be happy by being fulfilled and content. 

Heather says to be content, you have to be at peace with what happened. She can see how God is working her story for good, and D mentions how important their relationship with God was during these curveballs in their lives. 

D asks Heather how she handled the business when all of this was going on, and she says she used the business as a distraction. She says this situation really allowed her to open her mind towards the business and had such a strong peace from God about it. Heather says that peace is really the only way you can wholly move on.

Heather says she got a wooden plaque that says "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain," by Vivian Greene.

She says that you can only sit in it so long before you need to pull up your bootstraps to keep going. You have to reflect on what you have learned, what you need to take with you, and what you need to leave there.

Heather brings up The Hope Project, which was an experiment done by a scientist in the 1960s, and the point that was made in the experiment was you can push yourself farther than what you think is possible if you believe you're going to be saved. And Heather asks, what could a hope and belief in yourself do for you? 

She believes God doesn't let you go through something like that for nothing. Use your story to help others. Heather says she doesn't mind sharing her story as long as someone cares enough to hear it. 

 D mentions you never know who's listening, and shares how she shares the verses every Sunday and she got a text from someone who thanked her for posting Scripture on their page. 

D also shares how we're not meant to be alone. We long for community, and Heather mentions again how amazing it was that D was put in her life at that time. D says don't let your circumstances hold you back from what you want to do, and Heather says she is proof of that.

Heather says in that moment, she never felt like she would be whole or healed. D said she felt the same when she was lying on the floor and didn't think she could stand back up. But they both did, and so can you.